The gravestone of Ruth Graham (wife of Billy Graham) reads, “End of Construction – Thank you for your patience.”
Until you go to the grave, you are “under construction.” That means you are a work in progress in the hands of your Creator. There is always something that is being fixed, something that is being improved, or something new that is being built.
Here are 5 key behavior patterns that every leader should allow God to fix, improve, build or make new.
Be a role model.
Before you are a minister or a mentor – you are a model. Your influence depends more on the life you live than on the position you hold
- People do what people see.
- Successful leaders demonstrate what they expect people to imitate.
- Leaders must be the example and model of the behaviors they teach.
- Credibility will be strengthened when your life matches your talk.
As a role model, examine yourself in these areas:
- Consistency – are you the same no matter who you are with?
- Choices – do you make decisions on how they will benefit you or others?
- Credit – are you quick to recognize others for their efforts in your success?
- Character – do you work harder on your image or on your integrity?
- Credibility – do you recognize that credibility is a victory not a gift?
Learn good relational skills.
Leadership cannot be divorced from relationship.
You may be a brilliant preacher, or may be great with vision and strategic planning but if you are rude or harsh, or think that as a leader you are an “untouchable” it will produce:
- An atmosphere that is negative and shallow.
- Relationships that are transactional and that lack any emotional engagement with others
- People feeling used instead of loved.
Which of these leadership styles describe you?
- Performance = You impress others from a distance
- Vulnerability = You influence others if you allow them to get a bit closer
- Engagement = You truly impact others in a close relationship
If your leadership is based on performance only, you could be headed for a pitfall.
Develop a team.
The primary task of an effective leader is not great personal accomplishment, but to accomplish as much as possible through the gifts of others
- Moses was the leader of 3 million – God gave him a team of 70
- Jesus came to earth as Savior all mankind – He spent the majority of his time with 12 men.
Leaders sometimes like to be loners and do as much as possible themselves, but as a pastor you will have a congregation to shepherd, and you should have a team to develop
Many amazing men/women leave a church because
- When they wanted the leader to invest in them the leader felt threatened by them
- When they wanted the leader to develop them the leader disengaged from them
- When they wanted to share the burden, the leader decided to carry it alone
When it comes to the key people on your team:
- Know the keys to their heart : What do they dream about, what do they cry about?
- Know the gifts they have : What do they do well that gets results?
- Know the opportunities ahead of them: What is the next step they should take to grow?
Part 2 will follow next week.